
Do you keep score? Are you petty? Do you make a big deal out of small issues? We are suppose to learn to roll with it. Let things roll off a duck's back. Ok! Well sometimes this is easier said than done. These behavior are all negative and they impact us mentally. Yes, I have been sucked into the vortex as well. I am not immune to any of these trivial matters. Someone sent me a text this morning before I could even get my first cup of coffee going. Let me just say anyone who really knows me, well don't mess with me until I have had a cup!! She asked why I did not speak to her at the gym yesterday. Really? Are we that petty? you must have amnesia. Here is what I wanted to do 1) I thought about ignoring it all together because it wasn't worthy of a response. 2) I thought I will wait several hours to respond until I calm down to respond. 3) I could respond now. I decided I will make this short and state the facts. Proof is in the pudding, right? I sent a text stating " I did speak to you I said hello to you as I was in a conversation with Candie and Austin."
Her response back was a smiley emoji.
By me stating the facts, she had no argument. Did ya'll catch that? I was already in conversation with 2 other people.

Ya'll know I grew up in the South and yes , I was "trained" to refer to Emily Post (for you younger girls the etiquette "Bible"). First of all, you do not and I repeat you do not drop your attention or conversation from the current social interaction because that is rude, insensitive, and down right disrespectful. My acknowledgement of the newcomer was completely sufficient. I did not ignore her and the proper thing for her to do in that case 1) continue on your merry way and do not interrupt or 2) you politely step aside and wait your turn.
I can not tell you how many times I have been at a social function or in a meeting where you are dropped like a hot potato because someone comes along and interrupts the group. This behavior sends the message that you are no longer important to the conversation or that person. How is it I am now standing there totally weeded out of the group looking lost. Yes, talk about awkward. I am immediately going to my negative thoughts 1) they didn't really want to chat with me 2) users! 3) that's it I'll ignore you moving forward 4) you suck! 5) look who is being petty.

Here is the deal, yes I too have knee jerk reactions. Yes, I can be petty. Yes I am hurt and offended but at the end of the day let's put this into perspective:
Mental Health is so important and we must let go of our critical thinking, our grievances with others. In order to tame my mental health issues I step back and give gratitude for what is in my life. Writing and giving thanks daily helps my mental state immensely. Let go of the petty behaviors of others.
Perspective: in the grand scheme of things I have nothing if I do not take care of myself physically. Go for a walk, breathe fresh air, mentally account for what you see around you and give thanks for the smallest things that make YOU Happy!
Exercise, do 10 minutes of yoga, 10 minute walk, play with your children, walk your dog (they love it). Do you see what I mean? Being physically health allows you to be better mentally. Physical healthiness looks like this... if I am healthy on the outside I can walk to the park, I can go to work, I can drive my car, I can have independence to work on my mental health and spiritual health. Choose foods wisely that will enrich your palette, soul, and body.
4. Call a friend or a family member. I mean a real advocate who truly cares about you! This is the person that would drop everything to be there for you. Some of us ladies like to chat so set a timer for 5 or 10 minutes to have your bitch session. Negativity brings us all down including the listener. Get it off your chest so you can move on.
Detox and I mean really take a hard look at the negative energy in your life. Do your best to maintain distance or get rid of it all together. Yes, it is hard when you have been friends with someone for years. Look at the value they bring to the table. Relationships are not meant to be one side. And yes, I have had my fair share of one sided where I put in almost all the work. There are tons of energy sucking vampires out there and they love to latch on and bring you DOWN to their level of misery! Trust me I get it! Remember some people never grow up and we must decide how to handle situations like adults.
Take care of you and breathe through petty behavior and the negativity
Until next time.......

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